On Friday January 21, 2011 (yes, just a few weeks ago) I met up with a few of my girlfriends at an indoor playground we affectionately call the “Dinosaur Park” (since all of the super cool, soft yet structurally sound apparatuses are different dinosaur types or stone-age creatures). We were talking about life with kiddo’s, adoption (as one of them had also adopted), incorporating baby #2, etc….
As we sipped on our coffee and the kiddos climbed and daringly jumped off the dinosaurs to their hearts content, I shared how the week before we had been approached about an adoption of a 13 month-old boy. I told my friends how Scott and I had no peace with this situation. Not because we did not want another child right now–we did–desperately in fact. Not because we were opposed to adopting an older baby–we aren’t. It was just that indescribable gut feeling that we were not the right family. On top of that, we knew rationally that with our summer at camp coming up, we could not effectively and appropriately transition a child into our family that knew a differently family for a whole year. It just did not seem fair to that sweet child. Furthermore, after this emotional roller coaster of being asked and discerning, we were told he is not going to be needing a family after all-the person who called us made a mistake.
So…..at least we discerned correctly that we were not called to adopt that child!
I told my friends “I just knew now is not the time for a 13 month old–but we could do a baby, I really feel like we could adopt a newborn at this point…”
10 minutes later my cell phone rang (yes, that’s right, just 10 minutes later)
Our friend April, who adopted with an agency in Florida 9 months before, called to let me know that her agency called her that morning about a birth mom who was due in 2-4 weeks. They needed an adoptive family who had all of their paperwork ready to go (current home study, finger prints, etc). April knew we were on the list for adoption #2, and thought we may fit this description–we did!
Now it wasn’t that simple really, there would be a lot of phone calls to be made, a home study update, more paperwork, but for the most part,with enough quick moving, we truly could put our names forward.
So I called Scott who was out of town for a speaking engagement and recruiting our summer staff. When I called him, he was overwhelmed and excited all at the same time.
One would think we would be shocked since to our knowledge we were only on the list to the list at our adoption agency. We were on that list for almost a year already and had at least 6 months more before we would even create a family profile that would be shown to birth families. The reality however, is that we were not shocked. Scott just KNEW that a baby would come to us through a different means–that our next baby would present himself to us, similar to how Lily came into our lives-through a friend. I told him we were unbelievably blessed with Lily’s adoption and that that does not happen usually ever, much less twice. He said, why not? If it is the baby God intends for our family, God will join us with that baby in what ever way is needed.
So with Scott out of town, Lily and I prepared a family profile–a book of pictures describing our family. Lily later that night developed croup–probably from all of the germs that day at the park. Even with an ER visit and lots of cuddling and bedside manor with my desperately sick toddler (while being the only parent at home and preparing for this adoption), I did not feel overwhelmed. I knew a baby could only be a good thing right now–even amidst a parent’s most intense and emotional moment–a severely sick child. Luckily, the next morning my good friend Beth came over to help, and by Saturday night, I shipped out our family profile and our “Dear Birth Mom” letter (which Scott wrote) to the adoption agency in Florida.
On Wednesday, January 26, a courageous young woman met with the agency in Florida and reviewed a group of family profiles. She asked to speak with us over the phone.
When we spoke to her she said “I just know you guys are the right family for him (Silent Squeel by us!!!), I just want him to be happy and you all seem so happy.”
On Friday February 18, she called us to tell us she was going into labor and on Saturday February 19th, after a long flight to Florida, we met our son, Samuel (meaning God heard) Isaac (meaning laughter).
We feel blessed beyond words.